Outrage
After I wrote this post, I got comments and emails exhorting me to consider that the men who are denying their wives gittin have legitimate grievances as well. And I was willing to admit that, though there is NEVER grounds for a man to deny his wife a get, there are always two sides to every story. However, this story is just galling. I don't know anything that could possibly mitigate the behavior of this man in question. The only thing more upsetting is the insensitivity of the judges involved in this woman's bais din. The husband apparently made granting his wife a get contingent on his child support debts being pardoned by the National Insurance Institute of Israel. When the debt was not pardoned, the judges apparently saw no point in showing up at the appointed time, as they did not expect the husband to grant the get. As the administrative head of the bais din said:
Can you belive this woman has such UNREALISTIC expectations?
Indeed.
"... he did not understand why the woman expected a get before the debt had been taken care of, as stipulated in the agreement."
Can you belive this woman has such UNREALISTIC expectations?
Indeed.
4 Comments:
This makes me crazy. My blood is literally boiling. These stories are so common these days that it just encourages more men to deny their wives a get.
Someone recently told me that his wife rejected all the reasons he had for not wanting to get married and he ended up marrying her.
Now if she wanted a divorce, he would reject her request on the same grounds.
Hmm. Didn't he have free will? This doesn't sound like a marriage made in heaven!
It's the indifference that's most horrific, these endless quotes from apparently sane rabbis who don't seem to understand how this hurts people.
I mean, why on earth would this woman expect a get when her husband's wish to be exempted from financial responsibility hasn't been granted? (grind teeth here)
And as for the notion that he was talked into this marriage--poor baby! Now's his big chance to get out.
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